Max Mosley

•July 11, 2008 • Leave a Comment
Max Mosley\'s Chart

Max Mosley's Chart

We don’t have Max Mosley’s time of birth, just the date and place. Pluto has been oppposing Mosley’s natal Moon at 27 Gemini perhaps portending the loss of things most precious to him.

Photograph taken by from wiikimedia.commons.

Britisher Max Mosley, a Formula 1 racecar mogul, was taped having an allegedly Nazi-style sadomasochistic interaction with five paid prostitutes. It came as news to his wife of 48 years and to two grown sons when it appeared in a headline on a British tabloid. A video of the event was also put on youtube.

Mosley, who has Saturn in Aries, sued the tabloid and has been presenting arguments as to why its publishing this material is an inappropriate invasion of privacy. In a departure under British law he is asking for punitive damages. He has cited the “devastating” effect on his wife and the attempted ruin of his own life (and career). He hopes to deter other tabloids in the future.

Mosley is mounting what could be called a Crusade in an area that has long begged to be cleaned up. We keep visiting sex lives of public officials with a mixture of glee and apology. We seem to feel in America and Britain that their lives should be exemplary. But there has always been controversy as to how a man’s personal life should be accounted for. Walk briefly back in time as shortly as to Jack Kennedy’s presidency where his mutiple liaisons were never mentioned by the press. There was an understanding. Recently President Sarkozy of France stalked out on an American interviewee who tried to get into his personal life with him. Someone recently comoented, “the French and Spanish do’nt have sex scandals”. Ths is the province of the uptight Brits and Puritanical Americans.

Further this essentially a dialogue between men and perhaps a vendetta brought it about as one suspects with Eliot Spitzer as well.

That this adventure comes to light under a Mars/Saturn transit is no coincidence. Aries and Capricorn, Mars and Saturn, energy means a fight among men. I feel at the root of Mosley’s struggle is his relationship with his father, an infamous British fascist and friend of Adolph Hiter. Because of his father, Mosley could not entertain thoughts of a career in politics as he might have wished. With Saturn in Aries, Mosley’s anger and frustration at his father must have been epic in proportion. Here he is at 68 defendig himself from accusations of being a Nazi sympathizer just like his father so many years before. He has taken a wildly circuitous route and wound up with the same fate. This is really a story of the “sins of the fathers”.

I hope he wins his case and I admire him for fighting.

INFP – Do You Identify?

•July 10, 2008 • Leave a Comment

Nancy, I really appreciated your article about the intensity of INFs. I admit, as I began reading the article I was a little skeptical of your classifying INFPs as having the same degree of intensity as INFJs. My sister is an INFJ and growing up I always saw her as the most individual, opinionated, and intense person I knew. Me, I wasn’t intense, I was ‘helpful.’’

Being an INFP, my existence has always been based making those around me happy. Growing up I was always the peace-maker/mediator/interpreter in the family. My sister used to jokingly refer to me as the ‘multi-continent plug adapter’ (as well as calling me ‘mother’ in the most spiteful voice she could). I couldn’t help it, I was the happiest and most comfortable when the waters were still and everyone around me was happy. But growing up I retained a convoluted view ‘normal.’

Though neither of my parents intended to give me such an idea, I somehow came under the impression that being an introvert was not a good thing. Based on too little information, and the tone and connotations of the words they would use I somehow believed that every person was extroverted and that introversion was a voluntary-and quite selfish-form of behavior. Though my mother (who somehow seems to be on the borderline of extrovert and introvert) tried very hard to understand each of us and our individuality, I can remember being admonished to ‘go make some friends.’ I often heard things like ‘hang out with people your own age’ and ‘don’t be afraid to speak up.’ Instead I resisted initiating contact, avoided confrontation, and stayed in corners with my library book while the noisy kids I was supposed to get along with (we were the same age after all, why not?) ran around and played stupid games where someone won and someone lost. The conclusion drawn from my behavior was that I was ‘anti-social,’ possible because I was very fearful. And of course knowing that people thought such a thing -to them an unhappy and concerning thing- I further withdrew my true self inside and, without even realizing it, slowly became everything to everyone.

To make a long story short, after several years of striving to keep peace, being the perfect kid who did everything right, and working a very extroverted job in a highly energetic atmosphere (I can actually make myself a very good extrovert, provided I feel I have the upper hand) full-time in the beginning of college, I crashed-big time. The past couple of years I have been struggling with health issues, mainly muscle weakness and a lack of energy, and possibly have an autoimmune disease (all the signs point to Addison’s). After reading most of your articles about introverts I am not surprised. I have never been the kid who shut the door or asked to be left alone. And I had terrible self-esteem.

But in a way this illness has been a gift. I have had a good deal of alone-time in the past couple of years, something I never sought out before. The effect has been amazing. I’m discovering that there is a lot about me that I never acknowledged, explored, or even knew about. And more than that, I’m coming to a place where I actually like it all. I’m fascinated and enthralled by who I am. And believe me, that has never happened before. But back to your assertions about intensity.

I’ve never thought of myself as being intense because I was always the calm, quiet one. My sister, the INFJ, never pretended to be anything but herself (despite much opposition), which made her intensity visible. And I was always under the impression that the only ‘you’ that counted was the visible ‘you.’ But suddenly I’m discovering that the inside of me is deep -very, very deep. And that it is a good thing, even an amazing thing. My intensity is there; I think, I see, I imagine, I feel -god, how I feel- it’s just way down, deep inside. It isn’t flashy or colorful or eye-catching. It is quiet, it is profound, it carefully slips in the back door, latches on, and never lets go. Yes, I am very intense.

I hadn’t fully formulated my thoughts when I decided to write this so I had no idea I’d end up spilling quite so much. I apologize for the length. It seems that once I find someone who at least semi-understands me (and of course views it all in a positive light) I tend to forget when to stop. 😛 Thanks so much for your website, it has been invaluable.

-J (female, age 22)

Tools of My Trade

•July 10, 2008 • Leave a Comment
Tools of My Trade

Tools of My Trade

Identity Theft

•June 24, 2008 • Leave a Comment

32% of theft identity cases are by someone in the home, family or relative; 18% by a close relative, friend or neighbor. Complete strangers account for 24%.

Have you had your identity stolen? Let me add your chart to my research so I can target those most vunerable and warn them. Please send date, time and place of birth plus any details that are of interest.

Hypnotic Ancient Dancing from Epirus

•June 19, 2008 • Leave a Comment

It’s Jupiter to the Left of the Moon Tonight!

•June 19, 2008 • Leave a Comment

Dads and Wrestling

•June 19, 2008 • Leave a Comment

 

Dear S., Greetings!

“Bring it on,” I yelled to my kids. “I’ll pin you both at the same time!”

“You think so?” my daughter yelled back. “You’re gonna get what you deserve!” My son came at me from the front, while my daughter snuck around behind me. I spun to the ground, and was assaulted on both sides. It was only a matter of time before they each had a shoulder pinned to the ground.

While they celebrated their victory, I planned my next attack, knowing that the “results” of the battle were far less important than the battle itself.

Do you want to be an effective father?

One of the easiest ways to be effective is to wrestle with your kids. Not only is it loads of fun, but its’ benefits go a long ways towards teaching your kids some valuable lessons.

When your child wrestles with you, they learn many things simultaneously. They learn that you care about them enough to spend time with them. They learn that you’re strong, and that if you wish you can pick them up and throw them out the window! And they also learn that you can be very gentle with them at the same time.

Wrestling with your kids allows you to set very clear limits on what’s allowed. Research has shown that wrestling with your kids helps them to develop self-control and to gain more discipline. When a limit has been violated, you can gently and firmly let your child know what’s allowed and what isn’t.

It’s extremely important to wrestle with your daughter as well as your son. When you avoid wrestling with your daughter, you run the risk of showing her that you don’t believe she’s capable of handling it. She can handle it, and by doing it you show her you think she’s strong and capable.

If you have more than one child, you can have some great wrestling matches with the whole family, including mom! But as fathers, we’ll often have a special place in the family as the “fun, physical guy.” We’ll often be the ones who show our kids how to play. In this case, we need to be able to show our kids how to play “rough.”

Many fathers have wrestled with their kids because it just “felt right,” or because they remembered their father wrestling with them when they were young. They had no knowledge of any research associated with it or that it had great benefits for their kids.

So keep looking for opportunities to tackle your son or daughter and take them down to the floor!

It won’t be long before your opportunities are gone.

Warmly,Mark Brandenburg

Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
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